How do you show up in the world? When others meet you for the first time, what energy do you radiate? How do others respond to you? Are they drawn to you? These questions may seem strange, but they can shed light on your mindset and give you a better understanding of your actions.
Have you ever been around someone that has a cool vibe? Let’s call her Jane. Jane is happy. She’s a glass half full gal, radiating positivity. Others are drawn to her. She has a unique sense of style and is not overly concerned about what others think of her. Jane projects confidence, but is not cocky. You want to be around Jane. She makes you feel good. Her positive energy is contagious.
Now imagine a very different type of person. Let’s call her Cathy. Drama follows her wherever she goes. It’s like a cloud. There’s always a problem. She views the world negatively. We’re all doomed. Others are out to get me. Cathy attracts similar minded people into her sphere of influence, the Negative Naysayers. After all, misery loves company. If you’re like Jane, this type of person can suck the life out of you.
So, let me ask you again…how do you show up in the world? You may feel that on somedays you have a little Jane in you. On other days you may be more like Cathy. That’s normal. We all have good and bad days. My point, is to make you aware of how your energy is influencing your mindset and your actions.
You may have heard of the Law of Attraction. By definition, the Law of Attraction is a pseudoscience based on the belief that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life. The belief is based on the principle that people and their thoughts are made of “pure energy.” Through a process of like energy attracting like energy, a person can influence their life by their thoughts, what they say, and their actions. For example, if a person is positive, looks at challenges as learning experiences, and believes they can have great health, wealth, and positive relationships, they will attract the things they desire. Techniques such as positive affirmations and “I AM” statements help frame the mindset to attract their desires.
In Hinduism and Buddhism, the concept of the Law of Attraction is expressed by karma. Karma is the sum of a person’s actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences. You’ve heard the phrase, what goes around comes around. If you’re negative and treat people poorly, others will reciprocate this same behavior towards you.
For many, there is the belief in destiny or fate. Ultimately, our destiny or fate is predetermined. Our actions lead us to that fate.
In terms of behavioral science, what we think about impacts our belief system which drives our behavior. For example, if we tell ourselves repeatedly that we can never be truly happy or successful, these thoughts will become our belief system. This belief system will subconsciously sabotage our behavior, so happiness and success elude us.
Now that you are aware there are forces that impact our beliefs and behavior, how do you choose to show up in the world? Will you be a Jane or a Cathy? Are you happy with the direction your life is taking? Are you surrounded by Jane’s or Cathy’s? If you aspire to be a part of a positivity ripple that will impact your life and the lives of others, I invite you to join my “Be Your Best Self” private Facebook group. It’s a safe space for sharing all things positive. No selling of any kind. Only positivity and encouragement. Members can invite others to join the group. We’re over 1,000 members and growing. If you’d like to be included, please reach out to me. Let’s grow this positivity ripple!
